What I write here is not meant to be a definitive item on ponyplay, just my observations of the scene. It is also essentially a pony's perspective, since I never have been, nor have the desire to be, a driver.
There are many different aspects to ponyplay, as there are to countless other activities, and I do not think any one can be called the 'correct' one. For instance, I have seen discussions on a ponyplay list where a particular faction insist that a 'real' ponyplayer must try to BECOME the pony - enter 'ponyspace' - and what everybody else does is not valid. To coin a phrase, I think that they are talking a load of bollocks. Provided all players are consenting adults and having fun, they should each be allowed to do their own thing without having to worry about what others may think of them.
There are mainly three types of pony - ponyboys, which includes yours truly of course, ponygirls, and male TVs playing as ponygirls - no reason that female TVs should not play as ponyboys, but I have not heard of it. I mention it because some of the 'ponygirls' would have the world know them as the real thing - I have to say that they can also look pretty convincing as girlies. All OK until they link up with a ruffty-tuffty male who WANTS the real thing, and only finds out he has been duped when the pony is restrained and at his mercy. I think it was Sir Guy that first labelled these ponies geldings as a subtle way of suggesting a male element. It seems to me to be a sensible idea, but a lot of them disagree - one can almost see them throwing their dolly out of the pram insisting that they are ponygirls and it is an insult to call them a gelding. I do not intend to offend them, and have happily trotted around in their company, but I hope they are careful if they set up a 'blind' meeting via the web, for instance. Prospective drivers should also make sure that they know what they are getting, if it is important to them.
From what I have seen at events, and also on several ponyplay lists, most ponies are male. There are also many more ponies than drivers. This means that the chances of a would-be pony finding a 'personal' female driver are pretty slim - a common request seen on the lists - although obviously not impossible. That is where The Other Pony Club is useful, because it can offer the opportunity for single ponies to play without having to find a partner or buy tack first. It also enables them to see if reality matches their expectations - for me it far exceeded them! :-)
Needless to say, what follows is my way (in bold) - not THE way, just MY way.
When I play, it is as a human,
a slave, that is used as a pony -
bondage with a purpose. Any equine actions would have to be 'encouraged' by my
I only play as a two-legged pony, usually as a draught animal,
I have no desire to switch roles and be a
My harness is escape-proof and comfortable enough to be worn all
day, which I like to do and is very important to me - I need to know that somebody else has to
release me. With my hands in the mitts behind my back I cannot remove my bit,
un-harness myself from the cart or, if tethered properly, wander off by myself - often
I am not, though, and I have some fun undoing the rope with my teeth and trotting
off. :-) I am therefore totally dependant on the 'humans' to feed and water me,
make sure I do not get cold standing around, and letting me go to the loo, etc.
I do not care about the gender, sexual orientation, colour, religion or anything
else about my driver/handler/trainer as long as we are both having fun.
I love spending the night chained up in a stable.
A fantasy yet to be realised is to reach the point when I fancy a break, only to be denied it by my driver/handler - maybe get a smacked bum into the bargain for asking for it if there is a 'no speaking' rule for ponies. This will enhance the feeling of being controlled by another, because although I cannot get my hands free without help, there is always the feeling that I retain some control if I will be released when I ask for it. I would hope that my driver/handler also gets a kick out of really taking control - then we both win. I am still trying to work out why what I want is not to get what I want! :-))